Sit Down With A Gay-For-Pay Porn Model, His Family, And Their Thoughts On Sexuality

The gay porn studio Broke Straight Boys has finally debuted what we presume to be the first episode of the “reality television show” they’ve been touting for over a year.

Originally, the show was supposed to follow gay-for-pay porn performers as they live in a house together, like a Big Brother with orgies and no evictions.

The clip below, which is entirely SFW and actually quite humbling, instead follows one of the studio’s top gay-for-pay models on a trip back home to discuss his gay porn career with his mother, father, and two straight brothers.

A large portion of the episode discusses Paul Canon’s drug overdose, while the rest focuses on his family’s reaction to his work and their explanations of his sexuality. Despite Paul’s reluctance to identify himself as gay or bisexual, he almost perfectly explains bisexuality while describing his sexual attractions.

“I really don’t care about defining my own sexuality. At this point now, I don’t like labels, I can’t stand labels,” he says once his family moves to the topic of assigning him a sexuality. His father believes he may be “homosexual,” to his brothers, he is “gay.” His brothers say they've “always felt” Paul was gay, and that “it’s awkward how he tries to hide that.”

Perhaps the most accurate description of his sexuality is the phrase brandished across his t-shirt: “I’m not gay, but $1000 is $1000″. Bless him.

In a confessional, Paul adds:

I guess I would be considered bisexual, [but] the reason I don’t like labels like that is bisexuality has this negative connotation of being confused, and I’m definitely not confused, I mean, I know what I like. I definitely find women attractive, but then there’s certain aspects of men that I find attractive. I don’t think that’s very confusion. I know what I like, and I know what I want…I just can’t stand labels.

Check out the rest below. And don’t knock it till you've seen it, because it’s not as painful as it sounds.

And here’s the best part: Now that you know Paul well, you can watch him perform (he’s a top!) in a five-man bareback orgy by clicking here. (nsfw, duh)

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Oklahoma Drops National Guard Benefits For All Couples To Avoid Serving Same-Sex Couples

Oklahoma Gov. Mary Fallin (R) announced earlier this month that state-owned National Guard facilities will no longer allow any married couples to apply for spousal benefits, regardless of whether they are same-sex or opposite-sex. The Supreme Court’s decision overturning the Defense of Marriage Act means that servicemembers with same-sex spouses are now eligible for federal benefits. Fallin’s unusual tactic is designed to avoid having to recognize those couples, which she asserts would violate Oklahoma’s constitutional amendment limiting marriage to one man and one woman:

FALLIN: Oklahoma law is clear. The state of Oklahoma does not recognize same-sex marriages, nor does it confer marriage benefits to same-sex couples. The decision reached today allows the National Guard to obey Oklahoma law without violating federal rules or policies. It protects the integrity of our state constitution and sends a message to the federal government that they cannot simply ignore our laws or the will of the people.

This decision directly contradicts an order from Defense Secretary Chuck Hagel ordering states to provide same-sex couples with the federal benefits they deserve under the law. All married couples will now have to travel to one of the five federal facilities in Oklahoma to apply for benefits. Incidentally, the state’s facilities were built almost entirely with federal funds and 90 percent of the Oklahoma Military Department — which includes the National Guard — is funded by the federal government.

Fallin’s tactic mirrors other attempts to punish an entire group to avoid serving the gay community. When marriage equality came to the District of Columbia, Catholic Charities decided to stop offering partner benefits to all employees to avoid having to provide them to any employee’s same-sex spouse. In various states, Catholic Charities has also abandoned all adoption services to avoid having to provide them to same-sex couples.

Schools have also employed this strategy to try to block gay-straight alliances from forming. In 2011, for example, Flour Bluff Independent School District in Corpus Christi, Texas considered banning all extracurricular clubs to avoid allowing a GSA to form.

Oklahoma is not alone in defying Hagel’s orders. The Texas Military Force acknowledged this week that it will not allow same-sex couples to apply for a housing allowance at state-run National Guard facilities, having already turned away at least one couple. Mississippi, Louisiana, and Georgia have also refused to comply, but some states that previously had balked have begun complying, like West Virginia. A total of 29 states have constitutional amendments banning same-sex marriage, but most are complying with the federal recognition for purposes of the National Guard.

Dear Dad

Dear Dad,

It's hard to believe that nearly two decades have passed since I came out to you as a gay man.  I didn't foresee that you would react by severing all communication between us.  So much has happened since that day, and sadly, you haven't been around to see it.

You've missed the "Worst of Times," when I really needed you.  I called from the hospital room after my partner passed away in 1996 and asked you to come to the funeral.  You said "Sorry, I'm not able."

But you've also missed the "Best of Times," when I simply wanted you.   Two years after Michael's death, I fell in love with Gary - a wonderful deaf man who is a gifted teacher.  I learned American Sign Language and together we adopted three kids.

Niko is sixteen, takes his studies quite seriously, and consistently makes the honor roll.  Last year he was doing math calculations that would make your head spin.  This fall, he wants to play high school football and he is almost as passionate about that sport as you are.  Name a team and, like you, he will probably be able to tell you who plays each position in the starting line-up.

Trei is ten and has a great sense of humor with an unrelenting silly streak.  He shares your interest in American history and recently studied Abraham Lincoln at school.  Yesterday, he won first place in his freestyle heat at the swim meet.  You should have seen his face glow with pride when he was handed the blue ribbon.

Jolé is nine and is clearly the little princess in our home. She is into fashion and thinks she might want to be a vet when she grows up.  I spent much of the last year taking her to museums for an ongoing class project.  We saw an exhibit on Pearl Harbor and my memory flashed to your stories about listening as granddad recalled the day the Japanese attacked.

As a father myself, I can't help but think about what a tremendous loss it is that you don't know Niko, Trei, and Jolé.  They would embrace you instantly.

The irony is that your inability to love me for who I am is part of the reason that I am able to love my family for exactly who they are.  I know how painful it is to be rejected just for being different.  So in my home, we cherish the differences.  Deaf or hearing, Chinese or Hispanic, gay or straight - doesn't really matter.  From our perspective, it's all just one big blessing and we give thanks for it everyday.
I grieved your loss many years ago, and then moved on.  But I guess a part of me will always hope for a miracle - that someday, somehow, we will reconnect as father and son.  No matter what happens, know that I still love you and I always will.

Happy Father's Day Dad.

-Jeff